Wife says she will only give birth if husband gives up job to become a 'stay-at-home' dad as she wants to work
Relationships are supposed to be partnerships where decisions are made by both parties following a discussion. However, one woman was called out by netizens for laying down demands without even involving her partner in the decision-making process. The woman took to Reddit to state that she and her husband were planning to have a child. She claimed that she agreed to it under the impression that her husband would become a full-time dad.
"I own a small business that primarily relies on me to keep it running, and I am entering a part-time graduate program in the fall, so I need to have an uninterrupted 40-50 hour work week. He was fully on board with this, as he wants to be a stay-at-home parent anyway," said the woman.
She added, "However, in making future plans (such as purchasing a house), he has mentioned his work schedule and how it will fit into our new life as parents. He works part-time, but when I said that I needed him to be a full-time stay-at-home dad, I meant just that - even part-time work would be off the table since it overlaps with my work hours." Further, the wife went on to say that her husband's contribution to the house in terms of finances were meagre, adding that he might have not understood her expectation of him.
"He may have been confused because I have talked about hiring part-time childcare after we take our parental leave, but I intended the childcare to give us time to keep up on chores, spend time together as a couple, and give him a break in general since being a stay at home parent is exhausting," said the woman.
The woman also stated that she would not want her work wife to be disrupted due to the arrival of a baby. Meanwhile, she also recognized how much her husband loves his job.
The woman's stand did not impress many. People called her out for making decisions for him. One stated, "Relationships are an agreement. Not a dictatorship." Another said, "It's fine if that's what you BOTH want. But no one should dictate whether their spouse is allowed to work."